May 012015

I expect some of you may be surprised to discover such a ‘heart on your sleeve’ post here, I know it is not your usual Hip Little One material but after laying awake for a few hours thinking of what I wanted to say I felt I had to get it off my chest. Many of you have come to know me through the blog, you have watched our family grow and therefore this little snippet of our family life is worth the share:

My beautiful family

My beautiful family

When we fell pregnant with baby 4 in 2012 we were terribly excited to share the news with our family, friends and the whole wide world. However our beaming smile soon dropped a few centimetres (in fact it was replaced by tears, due to hormones maybe but tears they were) when we discovered others didn’t share our excitement at all.

Somehow something magically changed in between baby 3 and 4 and all of a sudden our parenting decisions became public property. People seemed to think they had the right to share their negative opinions on large families, question our ability to clothe, feed and spend time with our children, the size of our home and our car. They asked if the baby was an accident, why on earth we decided to have another baby and if we were ‘gluttons for punishment’. From close family to complete strangers, everywhere we went people felt they deserved an explanation and were allowed to judge us on the size of our family. What happened to ‘If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all’?…

8 week ultrasound

Another miracle waiting to join our family

Slowly but steadily, and even though we didn’t want it to and I know I shouldn’t let it get to me, I started to feel our joy trickle away because of this. Looking back I realise that I did not enjoy the pregnancy as much as I wanted to and deserved to due to the words and actions of others. When our sweet little girl was born we had few visitors and received a handful of cards, as if a fourth baby is any less special than a first. Some of the so-called ‘friends’ who we messaged to announce our baby’s arrival did not even respond, as if she was not worth a simple text message. She absolutely is and like all of our children she means the world to us.

17 weeks

Hip Little One no.5

If you have seen me around the place lately you may have noticed my round new shape. You may wonder if you missed a unique pregnancy announcement on Facebook, the share of a first ultrasound picture or a cute baby bump shot. It is not that we are ashamed, that this baby was an accident, something we discovered late and are still coming to terms with, something to hide, be embarrassed of or keep secret or even worse, something we take for granted… that’s absolutely not it.

We decided we would rather quietly but deeply enjoy this beautiful gift that has been given to us in our small but happy family setting than for our excitement and joy to be clouded by other people’s lack of manners, their inability to keep their opinions to themselves, their rude comments and their misconceptions about large families. We are happy, our children are happy and that is all that matters to us.

Dear baby no.5, you are very much wanted and wished for, we prayed for you and peed on countless pregnancy tests waiting and hoping to see two pink lines, you are dreamed of and will be doted upon. We cherish you and count the weeks as if you were our first, I proudly show off my growing belly and we are so blessed to be expecting you. We can’t wait to meet you and our family will be happier and better because you will be in it.

17 weeks and counting…

We think our baby is worth celebrating so you are invited to join in our Big Baby Shower giveaway starting today. During the month of May we will be giving away more than $3000 in prizes, how would you like to win a brand new Oyster Max pram (RRP $1048)? Check back every day for our latest giveaway.

  21 Responses to “The Hip Little One family + one”

  1. my sister has been trying for years to become pregnant but nothing worked in her favor she seen my sister n I have how wonderful kiddies n after of years trying n tears I’m happy to say yes she is having a baby she may b only 6 weeks but I’m so happy for my sister n she would love to be in ur competition evens if she doesn’t know I did it for her

  2. yey Yey congratulations how very exciting!

  3. Congratulations!!! I think it’s wonderful news and I’m sorry you were made to feel like that. Babies are the most precious gifts that anyone can ever receive and I for one am excited for your fabulous news. Hope everything goes well for the rest of the pregnancy.

  4. Congratulations. How very exciting a precious bundle of joy.
    I know how you feel we got all of that with Baby number 3 🙁 couple of cards, no visitors, no help it broke my heart for my perfect little princess.

    • I am so sorry you had to experience this Karen. I personally have always been excited for my friends who had babies, no matter which no. it was. In return as our family grew I have felt disappointed like you. I know how it makes you feel and this is why I wrote this post, so that people will hopefully see they are (unknowingly?) hurting others and taking away some of their joy. Every child is a blessing and I am sure your little girl is very loved within your family, don’t let others get to you!

  5. so very happy for you!! congratulations, that is wonderful news so glad you are enjoying this pregnancy.
    wishing many more blessings in the coming months.
    xx pam

  6. Congratulations. If only i had not started so old i too could have had 5 lovely souls to share with the world. I am sorry to read of the negative responses you had in the past, people are so selfish these days and that is why they can not share the joy or imagine how a beautiful big family can work. Ignore them and bless you, once again congratulations.

  7. Gefeliciteerd Simone! Wat een mooie blog. Helemaal waar wat je schrijft. Jammer dat niet iedereen er zo tegenaan kijkt. Ik hoop dat jullie met heel jullie hart intens mogen genieten van deze zwangerschap!
    Liefs Lynn

  8. Massive congratulations on your exciting news ! I am 18 weeks !
    Yay go us!! Xxx

  9. Congratz!!!!! Happy for you and your growing family:)

  10. Congratulations x

  11. Congratulations!!! What exciting news!

  12. OH MY GOODNESS!!!!!! Yaayyy!!! Congratulations congratulations congratulations congratulations congratulations … congratulations!!! One for each of your beautiful miracles and an extra one in case you decide to have more. You guys are an incredible family and your children are delicious! We are so happy for you. I read your post with a tear in my eye and pain in my heart. No one should feel what you guys have experienced. Huge hugs and kisses for all of you! xxx B&S (and bump)

    • Thanks lovely. They sure are all miracles and they make us so very happy. I am glad I spoke out, all children (no matter which ‘number’ they are) deserve to feel loved and be treated to a warm welcome. Just like your bundle of joy will very soon be treated to a wonderfully warm welcome, we can’t wait to meet her. xx

  13. What a beautiful article. Good on you for exposing other’s thoughtless comments & actions. Shame on those ‘friends’.

  14. Congratulations. Your family of 6 will only get better as 7. Be proud of your family, you are all ridiculously adorable and deserve all the happiness the world has to offer.

    Some people just don’t think before they speak. I’m sure they mean it “all in good fun” but don’t realise how many times you hear the same negative comments. I don’t know why some people are so negative towards large families but we love ours. We have 6 children from 20 years – 12 weeks and blessed with 2 beautiful grandchildren, miss 2 and master 1. We wouldn’t have it any other way.

    Enjoy your growing bump, each one is a miracle to celebrate xxx

  15. Congratulations! BIG families Rock!

  16. Woohoo! Congrats on #5!! I’m expecting #4 and understand some of those reactions you got. Its sad but you just gotta keep your own joy and happiness. Forget the rest

  17. Congratulations on your #5! please ignore all who do not share your joy and they are not worth it. It’s your family and your decision.. hope your pregnancy is as enjoyable as your first (i love being pregnant though it was much harder when with my number 2 as my toddler is really too active for me to catch up with). Many hugs and congrats again to you and your beautiful family

  18. Oh yay! How exciting for your family. I come from a large family and absolutely loved it growing up. Every one is always going to have an opinion, especially when it comes to babies/families – I have learnt to listen, smile and nod and then get on with what works in our life.

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